I am a bad wedding planner, no actually I'm a bad blogger - I've been away from my I Do Vow To blog for close to two months and there's no excuse - well, I take that back, I've been traveling half way around the world and back for my wedding destination business.
I conducted site inspections in Jamaica and Italy for two couples planning their weddings in these countries. The trips were a wild success and both couples are anxiously awaiting their wedding day in these exotic locations. I am making a promise to get back on track and continue to blog my advice for wedding planning with a commitment to the environment, to community and to social responsibility.
Look for weekly updates soon. Thank you for your patience with me and although I can't promise to stay home, I will promise fresh new information and ideas.
Yours in planning,
IDoVowTo
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Thursday, October 15, 2009
Thursday, August 13, 2009
I Do Vow To "Commit to My Budget"
Budgets are a very difficult and emotional component to wedding planning. Every bride has visions of her "perfect wedding" and she hates to hear she cannot afford XY or Z. One of the commitments I make to couples who hire Fete Perfection is to outline a reasonable budget and work as hard as possible to stay within that budget. I begin the process before our initial consultation by sending a copy of my "Budget Priorities Worksheet" and ask that couples take a serious look at their priorities and budget before we meet.
While I'm not trying to discourage couples with low budgets from hiring me, I do want to them to have realistic expectations when it comes to their vision. For example, about two years ago I met with a very nice couple who dreamed of an elaborate 350 person wedding at one of the finest country clubs in the area. They wanted a ten piece band, specialty linens, fully hosted bar and dozens of other details I won't mention because you get the point. The problem was they wanted all this for $5000.00 and they were hoping to pay for my services out of this same budget. Sorry not happening - This is what every couple receives from me before scheduling a consultation:
Newly Engaged Wedding Planning Questionnaire
Simple Questionnaire for the Newly Engaged
When starting to plan a wedding, it's important to know that you and your fiancé are on the same page. That way you will be able to make decisions independently, when necessary, knowing that it fits into the overall look and feel of the wedding. It will also help you avoid arguments with each other, and give you firm answers to tell those who will question your decisions.
Rate the following in order of importance (put a 1 next to the thing that is most important to you, through a 10 next to the thing that is least important to you):
___Food
___Liquor
___Apparel
___Aesthetics/Appearance (flowers, decorations, centerpieces, ambiance & venue)
___Music
___Convenience
___Spirituality
___Photography
___Family and Friends
___Videography
When I look back on our wedding, I want to most remember: (choose 1)
___How exciting everything was
___How romantic it was
___How beautiful it was
___How proper everything was
___How smoothly and easily everything went
___How happy my parents and family were
Circle two to three words that you think will describe your wedding:
Fun -- Romantic -- Classic -- Unique -- Loving -- Classy -- Tasteful -- Glamorous -- Elegant -- Funky -- Casual -- Relaxed -- Formal -- Themed -- Well-appointed -- Luxurious -- Decadent -- Old-fashioned -- Kitschy -- Preppy -- Sporty -- Morning -- Afternoon -- Evening -- Coordinated -- Cute -- Solemn -- Religious -- Secular -- Traditional -- Other _________________
Even though you may not yet have put together a budget, or know who is contributing to your wedding, select how much you think your wedding will cost: (choose 1)
___$5000-$10000
___$10,000-$15,000
___$15,000-$20,000
___$20,000-$25,000
___$25,000-$30,000
___$30,000-$35,000
___$35,000-$40,000
___$40,000-$50,000
___$50,000-$60,000
___$60,000-$75,000
___over $75,000
The following items are included in this budget: (check all that apply)
___ Ceremony Site Fee ___ Wedding Party Gifts
___ Reception Site Fee ___ Officiant
___ Airfare ___ Hair & Make-up
___ Accommodations ___ Ceremony Music or Musicians
___ Wedding Planner Fee ___ Reception Entertainment
___ Reception Food ___ Photographer
___ Reception Décor ___ Videographer
___ Reception Beverages ___ Wedding Day Transportation
___ Flowers & Décor ___ Other (Describe)
___Site Inspection Travel Expenses __________________________
___Bridal Gown & Accessories __________________________
___Wedding Rings
___Honeymoon
___Invitations & Stationery
Colors we may use for our overall wedding colors (choose 3 or 4)
Red -- Green -- Yellow -- Blue -- Purple -- Lilac -- Amethyst -- Eggplant -- Lavender -- Wine -- Bordeaux -- Burgundy -- Sky blue -- Teal -- Royal Blue -- Navy -- Midnight Blue -- Raspberry -- Light Pink -- Hot Pink -- Fuchsia -- Coral -- Magenta -- Peach -- Tangerine -- Apricot -- Pumpkin -- Orange -- Curry -- Mustard -- Brown -- Chocolate Brown -- Camel -- Tan -- Beige -- Apple Green -- Grass Green -- Kelly Green -- Mint Green -- Lime Green -- Moss -- Sapphire -- Deep Aqua -- Gold -- Silver -- White -- Black -- Bronze -- Copper -- Cream -- Champagne -- Vanilla -- Marigold -- Electric Blue -- Neon Yellow -- Blue Grey -- Grey -- Other _____________
What is your preliminary guest count ________ How many do expect to attend ________What percentage must fly to attend your wedding_________
The single most effective way to control your budget is to cut your guest list. Every line item of your budget is affected by guest count. Think about it this way - every guest table requires at a minimum linens, centerpieces, meals, beverages & chairs. So assuming 8 guests per table all having $40 entree's $35 rental linens, $100 centerpieces, 2 bottles of wine at $40/ea and chair covers averaging $10 each with installation we have increased our budget by $77 per person. Now add optional items such as place cards, menu cards, table numbers, favors, base plates and you are well over $100 per guest. Cut 10 guests and you save $1000.
I have many other budget saving tips so watch for them but in the meantime,think about the people on your guest list. If your wedding day will not be the same without their presence, then by all means they must be invited. If you are sending an invitation simply because you received one, you are under no obligation to reciprocate.
While I'm not trying to discourage couples with low budgets from hiring me, I do want to them to have realistic expectations when it comes to their vision. For example, about two years ago I met with a very nice couple who dreamed of an elaborate 350 person wedding at one of the finest country clubs in the area. They wanted a ten piece band, specialty linens, fully hosted bar and dozens of other details I won't mention because you get the point. The problem was they wanted all this for $5000.00 and they were hoping to pay for my services out of this same budget. Sorry not happening - This is what every couple receives from me before scheduling a consultation:
Newly Engaged Wedding Planning Questionnaire
Simple Questionnaire for the Newly Engaged
When starting to plan a wedding, it's important to know that you and your fiancé are on the same page. That way you will be able to make decisions independently, when necessary, knowing that it fits into the overall look and feel of the wedding. It will also help you avoid arguments with each other, and give you firm answers to tell those who will question your decisions.
Rate the following in order of importance (put a 1 next to the thing that is most important to you, through a 10 next to the thing that is least important to you):
___Food
___Liquor
___Apparel
___Aesthetics/Appearance (flowers, decorations, centerpieces, ambiance & venue)
___Music
___Convenience
___Spirituality
___Photography
___Family and Friends
___Videography
When I look back on our wedding, I want to most remember: (choose 1)
___How exciting everything was
___How romantic it was
___How beautiful it was
___How proper everything was
___How smoothly and easily everything went
___How happy my parents and family were
Circle two to three words that you think will describe your wedding:
Fun -- Romantic -- Classic -- Unique -- Loving -- Classy -- Tasteful -- Glamorous -- Elegant -- Funky -- Casual -- Relaxed -- Formal -- Themed -- Well-appointed -- Luxurious -- Decadent -- Old-fashioned -- Kitschy -- Preppy -- Sporty -- Morning -- Afternoon -- Evening -- Coordinated -- Cute -- Solemn -- Religious -- Secular -- Traditional -- Other _________________
Even though you may not yet have put together a budget, or know who is contributing to your wedding, select how much you think your wedding will cost: (choose 1)
___$5000-$10000
___$10,000-$15,000
___$15,000-$20,000
___$20,000-$25,000
___$25,000-$30,000
___$30,000-$35,000
___$35,000-$40,000
___$40,000-$50,000
___$50,000-$60,000
___$60,000-$75,000
___over $75,000
The following items are included in this budget: (check all that apply)
___ Ceremony Site Fee ___ Wedding Party Gifts
___ Reception Site Fee ___ Officiant
___ Airfare ___ Hair & Make-up
___ Accommodations ___ Ceremony Music or Musicians
___ Wedding Planner Fee ___ Reception Entertainment
___ Reception Food ___ Photographer
___ Reception Décor ___ Videographer
___ Reception Beverages ___ Wedding Day Transportation
___ Flowers & Décor ___ Other (Describe)
___Site Inspection Travel Expenses __________________________
___Bridal Gown & Accessories __________________________
___Wedding Rings
___Honeymoon
___Invitations & Stationery
Colors we may use for our overall wedding colors (choose 3 or 4)
Red -- Green -- Yellow -- Blue -- Purple -- Lilac -- Amethyst -- Eggplant -- Lavender -- Wine -- Bordeaux -- Burgundy -- Sky blue -- Teal -- Royal Blue -- Navy -- Midnight Blue -- Raspberry -- Light Pink -- Hot Pink -- Fuchsia -- Coral -- Magenta -- Peach -- Tangerine -- Apricot -- Pumpkin -- Orange -- Curry -- Mustard -- Brown -- Chocolate Brown -- Camel -- Tan -- Beige -- Apple Green -- Grass Green -- Kelly Green -- Mint Green -- Lime Green -- Moss -- Sapphire -- Deep Aqua -- Gold -- Silver -- White -- Black -- Bronze -- Copper -- Cream -- Champagne -- Vanilla -- Marigold -- Electric Blue -- Neon Yellow -- Blue Grey -- Grey -- Other _____________
What is your preliminary guest count ________ How many do expect to attend ________What percentage must fly to attend your wedding_________
The single most effective way to control your budget is to cut your guest list. Every line item of your budget is affected by guest count. Think about it this way - every guest table requires at a minimum linens, centerpieces, meals, beverages & chairs. So assuming 8 guests per table all having $40 entree's $35 rental linens, $100 centerpieces, 2 bottles of wine at $40/ea and chair covers averaging $10 each with installation we have increased our budget by $77 per person. Now add optional items such as place cards, menu cards, table numbers, favors, base plates and you are well over $100 per guest. Cut 10 guests and you save $1000.
I have many other budget saving tips so watch for them but in the meantime,think about the people on your guest list. If your wedding day will not be the same without their presence, then by all means they must be invited. If you are sending an invitation simply because you received one, you are under no obligation to reciprocate.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
I Do Vow To "Share My Blessings"
In this third of a series of "I Do Vow To" posts, "share my blessings" can mean many things. Here are some thought provoking tips to get you started on the path to planning your wedding that lasts beyond your wedding day:
Thank you for reading...
I Do Vow To
- Arrange to have your flowers, centerpieces and bouquets delivered to a nursing home, hospital or long-term care facility
- Work with a caterer who can donate excess food to a local shelter, fire station or food shelf
- Provide meaningful wedding favors crafted by patients of a rehab center, hospice unit, or any facility that offers crafts, jewelry or art for sale. For example the Alzheimer's Association of Kansas City auctions patients artwork and raises substantial sums for Alzheimer's research. The Courage Center of Minneapolis offers beautiful greeting cards, completely designed and created by residents of the Courage Center.
- In lieu of a meaningful favor, donate a sum to a favorite charitable organization
- Hire wedding vendors who donate a portion of their fee to benevolent causes
Thank you for reading...
I Do Vow To
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
I Do Vow To "Symbolize My Wedding"
I Do Vow To "symbolize my wedding through charitable giving" is a great way to honor the commitment you two have or are making before God, family and friends. One way to symbolize or add your signature to your wedding is by offering a generous donation to the foundation or charity of your choice.
I suggest donations for couples who have hired Fete Perfection for wedding planning, especially those who think they need to provide a wedding favor but don't really have anything in mind. Rather than purchasing a favor, donate a sum of money to a good cause. Couples love the idea and spend quite a bit of time researching worthy organizations in which to make their donation.
Many couples will even suggest a charitable donation in lieu of guests providing wedding gifts. If that is the case, I recommend this information be posted on a couples wedding website and not listed on the invitation because gifts are never an obligation.
Look for organizations whose actual donations go toward those it benefits and not excessive administrative costs and expenses. Check out Charity Navigator for information about the financial health of more than 5,400 of America's largest charities. See who is consistently in the top ten for lowest fundraising fees and admin expense and highest in benefit.
Your wedding day is symbolic of you, your commitment towards each other and a look to the future. Incorporating charitable gift giving as a part of your wedding is the "signature" of a compassionate couple dedicated to improving the lives of others either locally or globally. That improvement begins with your wedding day.
I suggest donations for couples who have hired Fete Perfection for wedding planning, especially those who think they need to provide a wedding favor but don't really have anything in mind. Rather than purchasing a favor, donate a sum of money to a good cause. Couples love the idea and spend quite a bit of time researching worthy organizations in which to make their donation.
Many couples will even suggest a charitable donation in lieu of guests providing wedding gifts. If that is the case, I recommend this information be posted on a couples wedding website and not listed on the invitation because gifts are never an obligation.
Look for organizations whose actual donations go toward those it benefits and not excessive administrative costs and expenses. Check out Charity Navigator for information about the financial health of more than 5,400 of America's largest charities. See who is consistently in the top ten for lowest fundraising fees and admin expense and highest in benefit.
Your wedding day is symbolic of you, your commitment towards each other and a look to the future. Incorporating charitable gift giving as a part of your wedding is the "signature" of a compassionate couple dedicated to improving the lives of others either locally or globally. That improvement begins with your wedding day.
Friday, July 17, 2009
I Do Vow To "fill in the blank"
I Do Vow To "fill in the blank" is the title of my latest series of posts to provide couples with thought-provoking ideas or inspiration while planning their wedding.
For example, my inaugural post is "I Do Vow To...Commit to Less Wedding Waste". And there are many ways to keep that commitment. Here are my suggestions:
For example, my inaugural post is "I Do Vow To...Commit to Less Wedding Waste". And there are many ways to keep that commitment. Here are my suggestions:
- Be thoughtful of the papers you chose for invitations, programs and place cards. With printing as sophisticated and precise as it is, tissue papers and extra envelopes are a waste. Rather than printing one program for every guest, double up or design your program for duel usage such as a fan in warmer weather.
- Nix the guest favor. Honestly, your guests do not expect a favor and so many end up in the trash at the end of the night. If you really love the idea of favors, make it edible or plantable. I've seen seeds and seedlings given as favors and when it came time to clean-up, not one was left.
- Bar packages often provide disposable plastic glassware - pay the difference and upgrade to glass. The landfills are loaded with millions of pounds of disposable, which really isn't, plastic.
- Use locally grown seasonal flowers for your decor. Your blooms will be fresher and in most cases cost less than flowers from Central and South America.
- Don't toss the centerpieces at the end of the night. Many florists I work with will pick-up the centerpieces at the end of the evening and deliver them to hospitals and nursing homes for further enjoyment.
- Recycle your wedding magazines by giving them to a friend. Although some of the details may become dated, many styles, designs and decor are timeless and information in the articles always helpful.
- Donate or consign your wedding dress. Brides of France in Edina and Minneapolis purchases new and used dresses and accessories.
- Consider lighting from a professional like AV For You for a dramatic yet cost-effective way to add punch to your ceremony or reception site.
Monday, July 13, 2009
Congratulations to Andrew Vick of Vick Photography
One of my inspirations for I Do Vow To came from Andrew Vick of Vick Photography with whom I share studio space at Living Room Studios. Andrew has been volunteering generous hours of his coveted time to underprivileged kids camps across Minnesota, building homes in Guatemala, mentoring through Big Brother and sponsoring orphaned children through World Vision.
I am happy to say that last week Andrew received one of the highest honors bestowed in the wedding industry...he received Minnesota Bride's 2009 award for best photography. The competition was tough but Andrew came out on top and I say congratulations - you deserve it.
One of my goals with I Do Vow To as it relates to Fete Perfection is to increase global awareness to couples while planning their wedding. While I understand and recognize their wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime-event, it comes and goes too quickly and sadly, couples are left wishing their wedding day could live on and on.
With I Do Vow To wedding planning services, it can. For example, Andrew donates the annual cost to sponsor a child through World Vision, in the name of each couple who hires his photography services. At the first anniversary, couples can choose to continue the sponsorship of their child. So although the wedding day has passed, one child is fed, clothed and offered basic needs for an entire year and all because someone hired Andrew. To me, this is one way to honor the commitment a couple makes to each other and sharing that commitment with others.
I have said this before, but I see benevolence and selflessness playing important roles in wedding planning in the near future. Ask me how you can make a difference with your wedding. I am here to help.
I am happy to say that last week Andrew received one of the highest honors bestowed in the wedding industry...he received Minnesota Bride's 2009 award for best photography. The competition was tough but Andrew came out on top and I say congratulations - you deserve it.
One of my goals with I Do Vow To as it relates to Fete Perfection is to increase global awareness to couples while planning their wedding. While I understand and recognize their wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime-event, it comes and goes too quickly and sadly, couples are left wishing their wedding day could live on and on.
With I Do Vow To wedding planning services, it can. For example, Andrew donates the annual cost to sponsor a child through World Vision, in the name of each couple who hires his photography services. At the first anniversary, couples can choose to continue the sponsorship of their child. So although the wedding day has passed, one child is fed, clothed and offered basic needs for an entire year and all because someone hired Andrew. To me, this is one way to honor the commitment a couple makes to each other and sharing that commitment with others.
I have said this before, but I see benevolence and selflessness playing important roles in wedding planning in the near future. Ask me how you can make a difference with your wedding. I am here to help.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Saving Green
I spent significant time with two lovely ladies of Adorn Brides, Laura & Amy while attending Engage 09. Adorn Brides rents beautiful jewelry to brides who want to complete their wedding ensemble without breaking the bank. The more I thought about this concept the more I came to realize how timely this is.
With green weddings on the rise, see this article from today's Star Tribune, and the advent of scaled down budgets, see this article from USA Today, Adorn Brides is poised to capture brides from both markets.
Our last night in Cayman we were invited to a stunning soiree and I was offered the chance to wear a necklace for the evening. It truly was a memorable experience wearing diamonds and pearls I could never own. I felt like Cinderella going to the ball.
A friend and colleague Emilie Duncan of Emilie Duncan Event Planning said it best..."we rent linens for weddings, why not jewelry?"
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Destination Brides and Planners
Looking to save big bucks on accommodations for your destination wedding? Consider Vacation Rental by Owner a website that connects property owners of all types to renters. Without getting into tons of deals, check out their website for worldwide properties from modestly furnished to luxury properties with insane amenities.
I have personally arranged several family vacations through VRBO and have never been disappointed. We have stayed in 5 bedroom 6 bath log homes in the mountains of Utah, 3 bedroom 3 bath condos in the Florida Keys and beach front homes on Birch Bay in Pudget Sound of Washington State.
When my destination couples desire a more private, intimate setting for groups up to 50 I research VRBO in the country or region they wish to marry. Many of these properties come with housekeeping staff, gardeners and a chef to customize every meal at anytime of the day or night.
I'm looking at VRBO for my next Cayman Islands vacation.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Upscale DIY
I mentioned yesterday that my company Fete Perfection is being considered for a spot on a cable television program which will feature coverage of the Engage!09: Something Blue symposium occurring later this month in Grand Cayman. One of my homework assignments was to outline local trends.
One of those trends is Do It Yourself or DIY as it's called in wedding circles, but for big budget brides. I am not talking about homemade favors, centerpieces or invitations that look...well homemade. I'm talking who-would-ever-know-the-difference-because-it's-so-stylish-and-professional-looking DIY projects. One of those DIY opportunities is in our own backyard - Sadie Gardner of Sadie's Fine Floral offers classes on do-it-yourself centerpiece design and arrangements as well as the basics of bouquets, boutonniere's and corsages for the bride who truly wants a "hands on" experience.
A talented colleague in Seattle, Jody Taylor-Smith of Good Taste Events offers Good Taste Do It Yourself evenings in her design studio. Jody said the products, papers and designs that leave her studio at the end of the night are elegant, creative and most of all tasteful. She said brides of all budgets come in, but the trend is towards higher budget weddings for the pleasure of creating a memorable event and the satisfaction of a job well done.
One of those trends is Do It Yourself or DIY as it's called in wedding circles, but for big budget brides. I am not talking about homemade favors, centerpieces or invitations that look...well homemade. I'm talking who-would-ever-know-the-difference-because-it's-so-stylish-and-professional-looking DIY projects. One of those DIY opportunities is in our own backyard - Sadie Gardner of Sadie's Fine Floral offers classes on do-it-yourself centerpiece design and arrangements as well as the basics of bouquets, boutonniere's and corsages for the bride who truly wants a "hands on" experience.
A talented colleague in Seattle, Jody Taylor-Smith of Good Taste Events offers Good Taste Do It Yourself evenings in her design studio. Jody said the products, papers and designs that leave her studio at the end of the night are elegant, creative and most of all tasteful. She said brides of all budgets come in, but the trend is towards higher budget weddings for the pleasure of creating a memorable event and the satisfaction of a job well done.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Trending - DIY for Big Budgets
I was recently contacted to be considered for an interview by a cable channel who is producing a show called "Something Blue" - the show is designed to cover the event I'll be attending in ten days, Engage:09 Something Blue the symposium for high-functioning, high-end wedding professionals from around the world.
The producers asked for input on local trends and one that immediately came to mind is DIY. Do-it-yourself is nothing new, however DIY for high-end big budget weddings is. I believe it has become fashionable to do your own invitations, as an example and with all the professional printing options, papers, embossing and cutting equipment available for use, couples are gaining a certain level of satisfication by doing it themselves not to mention the substantial savings they realize.
I also like to hear couples discuss optional papers such as ceremony programs, place cards, menu cards and opting to not provide these items. Admittedly most guests glance at ceremony programs or use them as fans in hot settings, but the programs are rendered useless upon exiting the ceremony. Menu cards add fluff to the table or place setting and can contribute to the look of a stunning design, however the food tastes the same whether the menu is posted or not. For persons with allergies its nice to see the menu, however persons with severe allergies usually contact the couple to express wishes for compatible food.
I've been working closely with several local couples who have exceptional budgets and can hire the best product or service money will buy, however they have been expressing interest in DIY when they can. Not to save money but to work together as a couple, to take time to forge deeper connections and to say I love working side by side with you, let's do it always even after our wedding day.
I'm loving this great "new/old" trend and hope it spreads to other couples around the globe.
The producers asked for input on local trends and one that immediately came to mind is DIY. Do-it-yourself is nothing new, however DIY for high-end big budget weddings is. I believe it has become fashionable to do your own invitations, as an example and with all the professional printing options, papers, embossing and cutting equipment available for use, couples are gaining a certain level of satisfication by doing it themselves not to mention the substantial savings they realize.
I also like to hear couples discuss optional papers such as ceremony programs, place cards, menu cards and opting to not provide these items. Admittedly most guests glance at ceremony programs or use them as fans in hot settings, but the programs are rendered useless upon exiting the ceremony. Menu cards add fluff to the table or place setting and can contribute to the look of a stunning design, however the food tastes the same whether the menu is posted or not. For persons with allergies its nice to see the menu, however persons with severe allergies usually contact the couple to express wishes for compatible food.
I've been working closely with several local couples who have exceptional budgets and can hire the best product or service money will buy, however they have been expressing interest in DIY when they can. Not to save money but to work together as a couple, to take time to forge deeper connections and to say I love working side by side with you, let's do it always even after our wedding day.
I'm loving this great "new/old" trend and hope it spreads to other couples around the globe.
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