I Do Vow To "Share My Blessings"

In this third of a series of "I Do Vow To" posts, "share my blessings" can mean many things. Here are some thought provoking tips to get you started on the path to planning your wedding that lasts beyond your wedding day:

• Arrange to have your flowers, centerpieces and bouquets delivered to a nursing home, hospital or long-term care facility
  
• Work with a caterer who can donate excess food to a local shelter, fire station or food shelf
  
• Provide meaningful wedding favors crafted by patients of a rehab center, hospice unit, or any facility that offers crafts, jewelry or art for sale. For example the Alzheimer's Association of Kansas City auctions patients artwork and raises substantial sums for Alzheimer's research. The Courage Center of Minneapolis offers beautiful greeting cards, completely designed and created by residents of the Courage Center.
  
• In lieu of a meaningful favor, donate a sum to a favorite charitable organization
• Hire wedding vendors who donate a portion of their fee to benevolent causes

I hope these tips will inspire you to create a memorable and meaningful wedding that will live beyond your wedding day. Please share your ideas with us!

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I Do Vow To

I Do Vow To "Symbolize My Wedding"

I Do Vow To "symbolize my wedding through charitable giving" is a great way to honor the commitment you two have or are making before God, family and friends. One way to symbolize or add your signature to your wedding is by offering a generous donation to the foundation or charity of your choice.

I suggest donations for couples who have hired Fete Perfection for wedding planning, especially those who think they need to provide a wedding favor but don't really have anything in mind. Rather than purchasing a favor, donate a sum of money to a good cause. Couples love the idea and spend quite a bit of time researching worthy organizations in which to make their donation.

Many couples will even suggest a charitable donation in lieu of guests providing wedding gifts. If that is the case, I recommend this information be posted on a couples wedding website and not listed on the invitation because gifts are never an obligation.

Look for organizations whose actual donations go toward those it benefits and not excessive administrative costs and expenses. Check out Charity Navigator for information about the financial health of more than 5,400 of America's largest charities. See who is consistently in the top ten for lowest fundraising fees and admin expense and highest in benefit.

Your wedding day is symbolic of you, your commitment towards each other and a look to the future. Incorporating charitable gift giving as a part of your wedding is the "signature" of a compassionate couple dedicated to improving the lives of others either locally or globally. That improvement begins with your wedding day.

Simple Ideas to Reduce Waste

Since I Do Vow To is generating interest and gathering speed to become the newest hottest resource for trendy wedding ideas, I've decided to get back to my roots, if you will and start posting weekly tips for reducing wedding waste. Technically we are still in the engagement season, however wedding season is fast approaching so I'd love to have dozens of new ideas posted for all to adopt as their own.

The trend I'd love to forever eliminate from the whole wedding scene is to forgo the favor. Admit it...is there a single favor you've ever brought home that really touched your heart or that every time you look at it recall fondly "Liz & Tom's" wedding? I can't - and I've been to hundreds of weddings, professionally and socially.

Honestly, who needs another ornament, bar of soap, golf ball or wine charm? And as much as I love Godiva truffles in beautifully packaged boxes, I don't need 420 additional calories from the two-piece favor pack which by the way, costs $4.75 each. With 200 guests that's a savings of over $950 but money isn't the only reason to do this, although it's a secondary benefit. I hate to think of our lives as depicted in the movie Wall-E, but I also don't think that future is so far-fetched.

Wedding planners of the world, unite and fight against the favor! Brides and grooms, if the idea of a favor is a priority, why not take what would be spent and donate it to a charitable organization near and dear to your heart. I believe your guests will be touched by your generosity and grateful to not bring home another favor that ends up in the trash.