Wedding Planner Absent Without Permission

I am a bad wedding planner, no actually I'm a bad blogger - I've been away from my I Do Vow To blog for close to two months and there's no excuse - well, I take that back, I've been traveling half way around the world and back for my wedding destination business.

I conducted site inspections in Jamaica and Italy for two couples planning their weddings in these countries. The trips were a wild success and both couples are anxiously awaiting their wedding day in these exotic locations. I am making a promise to get back on track and continue to blog my advice for wedding planning with a commitment to the environment, to community and to social responsibility.

Look for weekly updates soon. Thank you for your patience with me and although I can't promise to stay home, I will promise fresh new information and ideas.

Yours in planning,

IDoVowTo

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I Do Vow To "Commit to My Budget"

Budgets are a very difficult and emotional component to wedding planning. Every bride has visions of her "perfect wedding" and she hates to hear she cannot afford XY or Z. One of the commitments I make to couples who hire Fete Perfection is to outline a reasonable budget and work as hard as possible to stay within that budget. I begin the process before our initial consultation by sending a copy of my "Budget Priorities Worksheet" and ask that couples take a serious look at their priorities and budget before we meet.

While I'm not trying to discourage couples with low budgets from hiring me, I do want to them to have realistic expectations when it comes to their vision. For example, about two years ago I met with a very nice couple who dreamed of an elaborate 350 person wedding at one of the finest country clubs in the area. They wanted a ten piece band, specialty linens, fully hosted bar and dozens of other details I won't mention because you get the point. The problem was they wanted all this for $5000.00 and they were hoping to pay for my services out of this same budget. Sorry not happening - This is what every couple receives from me before scheduling a consultation:


Newly Engaged Wedding Planning Questionnaire

Simple Questionnaire for the Newly Engaged
When starting to plan a wedding, it's important to know that you and your fiancé are on the same page. That way you will be able to make decisions independently, when necessary, knowing that it fits into the overall look and feel of the wedding. It will also help you avoid arguments with each other, and give you firm answers to tell those who will question your decisions.


Rate the following in order of importance (put a 1 next to the thing that is most important to you, through a 10 next to the thing that is least important to you):

___Food
___Liquor
___Apparel
___Aesthetics/Appearance (flowers, decorations, centerpieces, ambiance & venue)
___Music
___Convenience
___Spirituality
___Photography
___Family and Friends
___Videography

When I look back on our wedding, I want to most remember: (choose 1)
___How exciting everything was
___How romantic it was
___How beautiful it was
___How proper everything was
___How smoothly and easily everything went
___How happy my parents and family were

Circle two to three words that you think will describe your wedding:
Fun -- Romantic -- Classic -- Unique -- Loving -- Classy -- Tasteful -- Glamorous -- Elegant -- Funky -- Casual -- Relaxed -- Formal -- Themed -- Well-appointed -- Luxurious -- Decadent -- Old-fashioned -- Kitschy -- Preppy -- Sporty -- Morning -- Afternoon -- Evening -- Coordinated -- Cute -- Solemn -- Religious -- Secular -- Traditional -- Other _________________

Even though you may not yet have put together a budget, or know who is contributing to your wedding, select how much you think your wedding will cost: (choose 1)

___$5000-$10000
___$10,000-$15,000
___$15,000-$20,000
___$20,000-$25,000
___$25,000-$30,000
___$30,000-$35,000
___$35,000-$40,000
___$40,000-$50,000
___$50,000-$60,000
___$60,000-$75,000
___over $75,000

The following items are included in this budget: (check all that apply)

___ Ceremony Site Fee ___ Wedding Party Gifts
___ Reception Site Fee ___ Officiant
___ Airfare ___ Hair & Make-up
___ Accommodations ___ Ceremony Music or Musicians
___ Wedding Planner Fee ___ Reception Entertainment
___ Reception Food ___ Photographer
___ Reception Décor ___ Videographer
___ Reception Beverages ___ Wedding Day Transportation
___ Flowers & Décor ___ Other (Describe)
___Site Inspection Travel Expenses __________________________
___Bridal Gown & Accessories __________________________
___Wedding Rings
___Honeymoon
___Invitations & Stationery

Colors we may use for our overall wedding colors (choose 3 or 4)
Red -- Green -- Yellow -- Blue -- Purple -- Lilac -- Amethyst -- Eggplant -- Lavender -- Wine -- Bordeaux -- Burgundy -- Sky blue -- Teal -- Royal Blue -- Navy -- Midnight Blue -- Raspberry -- Light Pink -- Hot Pink -- Fuchsia -- Coral -- Magenta -- Peach -- Tangerine -- Apricot -- Pumpkin -- Orange -- Curry -- Mustard -- Brown -- Chocolate Brown -- Camel -- Tan -- Beige -- Apple Green -- Grass Green -- Kelly Green -- Mint Green -- Lime Green -- Moss -- Sapphire -- Deep Aqua -- Gold -- Silver -- White -- Black -- Bronze -- Copper -- Cream -- Champagne -- Vanilla -- Marigold -- Electric Blue -- Neon Yellow -- Blue Grey -- Grey -- Other _____________

What is your preliminary guest count ________ How many do expect to attend ________What percentage must fly to attend your wedding_________



The single most effective way to control your budget is to cut your guest list. Every line item of your budget is affected by guest count. Think about it this way - every guest table requires at a minimum linens, centerpieces, meals, beverages & chairs. So assuming 8 guests per table all having $40 entree's $35 rental linens, $100 centerpieces, 2 bottles of wine at $40/ea and chair covers averaging $10 each with installation we have increased our budget by $77 per person. Now add optional items such as place cards, menu cards, table numbers, favors, base plates and you are well over $100 per guest. Cut 10 guests and you save $1000.

I have many other budget saving tips so watch for them but in the meantime,think about the people on your guest list. If your wedding day will not be the same without their presence, then by all means they must be invited. If you are sending an invitation simply because you received one, you are under no obligation to reciprocate.

I Do Vow To "Share My Blessings"

In this third of a series of "I Do Vow To" posts, "share my blessings" can mean many things. Here are some thought provoking tips to get you started on the path to planning your wedding that lasts beyond your wedding day:

• Arrange to have your flowers, centerpieces and bouquets delivered to a nursing home, hospital or long-term care facility
  
• Work with a caterer who can donate excess food to a local shelter, fire station or food shelf
  
• Provide meaningful wedding favors crafted by patients of a rehab center, hospice unit, or any facility that offers crafts, jewelry or art for sale. For example the Alzheimer's Association of Kansas City auctions patients artwork and raises substantial sums for Alzheimer's research. The Courage Center of Minneapolis offers beautiful greeting cards, completely designed and created by residents of the Courage Center.
  
• In lieu of a meaningful favor, donate a sum to a favorite charitable organization
• Hire wedding vendors who donate a portion of their fee to benevolent causes

I hope these tips will inspire you to create a memorable and meaningful wedding that will live beyond your wedding day. Please share your ideas with us!

Thank you for reading...

I Do Vow To

I Do Vow To "Symbolize My Wedding"

I Do Vow To "symbolize my wedding through charitable giving" is a great way to honor the commitment you two have or are making before God, family and friends. One way to symbolize or add your signature to your wedding is by offering a generous donation to the foundation or charity of your choice.

I suggest donations for couples who have hired Fete Perfection for wedding planning, especially those who think they need to provide a wedding favor but don't really have anything in mind. Rather than purchasing a favor, donate a sum of money to a good cause. Couples love the idea and spend quite a bit of time researching worthy organizations in which to make their donation.

Many couples will even suggest a charitable donation in lieu of guests providing wedding gifts. If that is the case, I recommend this information be posted on a couples wedding website and not listed on the invitation because gifts are never an obligation.

Look for organizations whose actual donations go toward those it benefits and not excessive administrative costs and expenses. Check out Charity Navigator for information about the financial health of more than 5,400 of America's largest charities. See who is consistently in the top ten for lowest fundraising fees and admin expense and highest in benefit.

Your wedding day is symbolic of you, your commitment towards each other and a look to the future. Incorporating charitable gift giving as a part of your wedding is the "signature" of a compassionate couple dedicated to improving the lives of others either locally or globally. That improvement begins with your wedding day.

I Do Vow To "fill in the blank"

I Do Vow To "fill in the blank" is the title of my latest series of posts to provide couples with thought-provoking ideas or inspiration while planning their wedding.

For example, my inaugural post is "I Do Vow To...Commit to Less Wedding Waste". And there are many ways to keep that commitment. Here are my suggestions:

• Be thoughtful of the papers you chose for invitations, programs and place cards. With printing as sophisticated and precise as it is, tissue papers and extra envelopes are a waste. Rather than printing one program for every guest, double up or design your program for duel usage such as a fan in warmer weather.
• Nix the guest favor. Honestly, your guests do not expect a favor and so many end up in the trash at the end of the night. If you really love the idea of favors, make it edible or plantable. I've seen seeds and seedlings given as favors and when it came time to clean-up, not one was left.
  
• Bar packages often provide disposable plastic glassware - pay the difference and upgrade to glass. The landfills are loaded with millions of pounds of disposable, which really isn't, plastic.
  
• Use locally grown seasonal flowers for your decor. Your blooms will be fresher and in most cases cost less than flowers from Central and South America.
• Don't toss the centerpieces at the end of the night. Many florists I work with will pick-up the centerpieces at the end of the evening and deliver them to hospitals and nursing homes for further enjoyment.
• Recycle your wedding magazines by giving them to a friend. Although some of the details may become dated, many styles, designs and decor are timeless and information in the articles always helpful.
• Donate or consign your wedding dress. Brides of France in Edina and Minneapolis purchases new and used dresses and accessories.
  
• Consider lighting from a professional like AV For You for a dramatic yet cost-effective way to add punch to your ceremony or reception site.
  

If you have other ideas for less wedding waste, please comment. I will be happy to re-post in the future.

Congratulations to Andrew Vick of Vick Photography

One of my inspirations for I Do Vow To came from Andrew Vick of Vick Photography with whom I share studio space at Living Room Studios. Andrew has been volunteering generous hours of his coveted time to underprivileged kids camps across Minnesota, building homes in Guatemala, mentoring through Big Brother and sponsoring orphaned children through World Vision.

I am happy to say that last week Andrew received one of the highest honors bestowed in the wedding industry...he received Minnesota Bride's 2009 award for best photography. The competition was tough but Andrew came out on top and I say congratulations - you deserve it.

One of my goals with I Do Vow To as it relates to Fete Perfection is to increase global awareness to couples while planning their wedding. While I understand and recognize their wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime-event, it comes and goes too quickly and sadly, couples are left wishing their wedding day could live on and on.

With I Do Vow To wedding planning services, it can. For example, Andrew donates the annual cost to sponsor a child through World Vision, in the name of each couple who hires his photography services. At the first anniversary, couples can choose to continue the sponsorship of their child. So although the wedding day has passed, one child is fed, clothed and offered basic needs for an entire year and all because someone hired Andrew. To me, this is one way to honor the commitment a couple makes to each other and sharing that commitment with others.

I have said this before, but I see benevolence and selflessness playing important roles in wedding planning in the near future. Ask me how you can make a difference with your wedding. I am here to help.

Saving Green

I spent significant time with two lovely ladies of Adorn Brides, Laura & Amy while attending Engage 09. Adorn Brides rents beautiful jewelry to brides who want to complete their wedding ensemble without breaking the bank. The more I thought about this concept the more I came to realize how timely this is.

With green weddings on the rise, see this article from today's Star Tribune, and the advent of scaled down budgets, see this article from USA Today, Adorn Brides is poised to capture brides from both markets.

Our last night in Cayman we were invited to a stunning soiree and I was offered the chance to wear a necklace for the evening. It truly was a memorable experience wearing diamonds and pearls I could never own. I felt like Cinderella going to the ball.

A friend and colleague Emilie Duncan of Emilie Duncan Event Planning said it best..."we rent linens for weddings, why not jewelry?"

Destination Brides and Planners

Looking to save big bucks on accommodations for your destination wedding? Consider Vacation Rental by Owner a website that connects property owners of all types to renters. Without getting into tons of deals, check out their website for worldwide properties from modestly furnished to luxury properties with insane amenities.

I have personally arranged several family vacations through VRBO and have never been disappointed. We have stayed in 5 bedroom 6 bath log homes in the mountains of Utah, 3 bedroom 3 bath condos in the Florida Keys and beach front homes on Birch Bay in Pudget Sound of Washington State.

When my destination couples desire a more private, intimate setting for groups up to 50 I research VRBO in the country or region they wish to marry. Many of these properties come with housekeeping staff, gardeners and a chef to customize every meal at anytime of the day or night.

I'm looking at VRBO for my next Cayman Islands vacation.

Upscale DIY

I mentioned yesterday that my company Fete Perfection is being considered for a spot on a cable television program which will feature coverage of the Engage!09: Something Blue symposium occurring later this month in Grand Cayman. One of my homework assignments was to outline local trends.

One of those trends is Do It Yourself or DIY as it's called in wedding circles, but for big budget brides. I am not talking about homemade favors, centerpieces or invitations that look...well homemade. I'm talking who-would-ever-know-the-difference-because-it's-so-stylish-and-professional-looking DIY projects. One of those DIY opportunities is in our own backyard - Sadie Gardner of Sadie's Fine Floral offers classes on do-it-yourself centerpiece design and arrangements as well as the basics of bouquets, boutonniere's and corsages for the bride who truly wants a "hands on" experience.

A talented colleague in Seattle, Jody Taylor-Smith of Good Taste Events offers Good Taste Do It Yourself evenings in her design studio. Jody said the products, papers and designs that leave her studio at the end of the night are elegant, creative and most of all tasteful. She said brides of all budgets come in, but the trend is towards higher budget weddings for the pleasure of creating a memorable event and the satisfaction of a job well done.

Trending - DIY for Big Budgets

I was recently contacted to be considered for an interview by a cable channel who is producing a show called "Something Blue" - the show is designed to cover the event I'll be attending in ten days, Engage:09 Something Blue the symposium for high-functioning, high-end wedding professionals from around the world.

The producers asked for input on local trends and one that immediately came to mind is DIY. Do-it-yourself is nothing new, however DIY for high-end big budget weddings is. I believe it has become fashionable to do your own invitations, as an example and with all the professional printing options, papers, embossing and cutting equipment available for use, couples are gaining a certain level of satisfication by doing it themselves not to mention the substantial savings they realize.

I also like to hear couples discuss optional papers such as ceremony programs, place cards, menu cards and opting to not provide these items. Admittedly most guests glance at ceremony programs or use them as fans in hot settings, but the programs are rendered useless upon exiting the ceremony. Menu cards add fluff to the table or place setting and can contribute to the look of a stunning design, however the food tastes the same whether the menu is posted or not. For persons with allergies its nice to see the menu, however persons with severe allergies usually contact the couple to express wishes for compatible food.

I've been working closely with several local couples who have exceptional budgets and can hire the best product or service money will buy, however they have been expressing interest in DIY when they can. Not to save money but to work together as a couple, to take time to forge deeper connections and to say I love working side by side with you, let's do it always even after our wedding day.

I'm loving this great "new/old" trend and hope it spreads to other couples around the globe.

Engage!09::Something Blue

My inspiration for starting I Do Vow To came from attending "Engage!08:the encore"- the high impact luxury wedding business summit so it's only fitting that I attend the next summit in exactly one month. Engage!09:: Something Blue has been planned for Grand Cayman Island and will bring together the best of the best in the wedding industry from speakers to attendees.

Engage is for those wedding professionals interested in seeking advice and networking at a level not previously found at other conferences or seminars. Engage offers an intimate opportunity to interact, share ideas and candid conversation with speakers like Darcy Miller of Martha Stewart Weddings, Preston Bailey of Preston Bailey Designs, Randy Fenoli of Kleinfeld Bridal and Sylvia Weinstock of Sylvia Weinstock Cakes to name (drop) a few.

What makes this opportunity additionally fantastic is registration is limited so attendance truly is a privilege and should be an unforgettable experience. But first I have two destination weddings to coordinate then off to Engage.

I Do Vow To Coordinating Services

After viewing a fabulous marketing plan created by two very talented guys, I am moving forward with rolling out I Do Vow To not just as an added service to Fete Perfection but it's own entity. I can't wait to see the finished product and services but look for the I Do Vow To website and marketing materials targeting urban environmentalists that get excited about having a fabulous wedding but who are energized by making a positive difference in the lives of others long after their wedding.

I was able to preview the ad campaign which centers around I Do Vow To and can see this particular campaign will tug at heartstrings across the country. I can't wait! If all goes as planned this should be up and ready by June 21 - just before I head off to Engage:09 in the Cayman Islands.

Vintage Weddings - Vintage Gowns

I am so excited to attend the wedding of dear friends this weekend at Glensheen Mansion in Duluth. Besides being perfect for each other, they have a flair for everything vintage and classy. In fact they've themed their wedding in the 1920's era which is perfectly suited for the venue.

In my search for vintage wear and accessories I stopped into a shop I drive by at least weekly - Via's Vintage Wear at 2408 Hennepin Avenue in Minneapolis. Wow, what a place...they have clothing, jewelry, undergarments, outerwear, hats, gloves and accessories galore. I spent over an hour just browsing and enjoyed a brief history lesson at the same time. On most of the tags Vias has a brief history of the item or era from which it came.

They also have bridal gowns for sale along with a small collection of veils - all the items are authentic and not reproductions and come from customers who have these treasures hanging in closests or folded in trunks long forgotten. It seems that most of the items come to Via's when parents or grandparents move out of the family home after 50 years and younger family members are left with cleaning or organizing estate sales which means inventory changes often.

Check out Via's Vintage Wear for your next event or just for fun. Talk about recycling!

I Do Vow To - Coordinate a Wedding at Blue Hill Farm

While doing research for a great new destination couple I serendipitously happened upon an exciting venue probably unknown to most of us Midwesterners but very well-known to those lucky enough to live in the Northeastern corner of the US. Blue Hill at Stones Barn in Pocantico, New York opened in 2004 as a working four-season farm and educational center just 30 minutes from New York City.

Their mission, which aliens perfectly with our commitment at I Do Vow To, is to create a consciousness about the everyday food choices we make. Here is a little history taken directly from their website: "For family proprietors Dan, David and Laureen Barber, Blue Hill is the name both for their two restaurants, and for the farm that inspired them.

"I used to walk up Blue Hill Road every week, for years; sometimes everyday. I loved Blue Hill Farm more than anything in the world.

"Back then it was a dairy run by two brothers. What a mess! They had cows pasturing in the front yard, for god's sake... And the barn and house were run-down and so dirty I couldn't believe it. And you know what? I loved it. I loved the open pastures, I loved the backdrop of blue hills, I loved that I felt like a queen every time I came up here.

"But whenever I told the brothers I wanted to buy the farm, they just laughed. ‘Lady,' they'd say, ‘This farm has been in our family for three generations. We're never selling.'

"I'd return the next week, and they'd say the same thing. ‘Never selling.' This went on for years.

"Then one day I arrived at the top of the hill and one of the brothers came running over to me. ‘Ma'am, do you still want to buy this farm?' I couldn't believe it. He didn't even let me answer. ‘My brother and I have gotten into the biggest fight. If we don't sell it now we're going to kill each other.' I told them I was interested. ‘Ma'am,' he said, ‘we're selling it now, or forget it. Right now.'

So there you have it straight from the horses mouth - what a great story. I can't wait to visit so I'm going to try to get there in May. I think there's a lot more than meets the eye...

Earth Friendly Wedding Albums

Although I'm a day late in posting for Earth Day, it's never too late to promote an environmentally friendly product and conscientious service I believe in. Renowned photographer, Ruth Harper of Happily Ever After offers Earth Friendly wedding albums made entirely in the United States with 100% recycled archival pages.

Contact Ruth at ruth@happilyeverafterphoto.com or check out her website Happily Ever After for more information. Thanks Ruth, for sharing this valuable tip for not only brides and grooms, but wedding planners and others in the wedding industry. You are definitely a trendsetter in the world of environmentally friendly weddings.

Humanitarian Award

If I were to give a humanitarian award to one person in the wedding industry, it would go to Andrew Vick of Vick Photography. Andrew is a man with deep convictions and unending faith and love for people. He travels extensively shooting destination weddings but what makes him an inspiration is he spends at least four weeks a year traveling to impoverished countries building homes and schools.

His wedding photography business keeps him booked almost year round, however he always carves out time in two week increments to travel to third world countries to live among the citizens, get to know them and help any way he is able. One of these ways is through building.

I share studio space with Andrew at Living Room Studios so I see first hand the intricacies involved in scheduling and planning these trips. Often the journey just to arrive to the location takes over 24 hours and for most, that would be discouraging but not for Andrew. He thrives on the challenge and gains energy from the experience and from what I hear, the lives of those he touches will never be the same. Check out this blog posting from one of his most recent trips to Guatemala.

Andrew you are truly an inspiration and if the opportunity ever presents itself, I nominate you for the Humanitarian Award.

Our I Do Vow To Commitment

Our commitment at I Do Vow To is to not only help couples plan the wedding of their dreams, but also to create a wedding experience that has implications into the future. A couple's wedding day is a time they will remember and cherish hopefully into their twilight years, but the day is just that...one day.

After the flowers have wilted, the linens returned and the guests have gone home the wedding day is over. It's a lot like Christmas with all the hard work, all the anticipation, cooking, wrapping, cleaning and finally it's here...but just for a few short hours, then suddenly gone.

While Christmas will return again, your wedding day will not. However, a wedding designed and coordinated by I Do Vow To will provide the assurance that the impact of your wedding day will be felt long after the day has passed. For example, I Do Vow To will commit to eliminating waste in two ways. We will not knowingly waste valuable dollars on unnecessary or frivolous purchases such as favors, nor will we contribute to the ever growing piles of waste in our landfills.

While I love the world of weddings, I also recognize how terribly wasteful they can be. I have posted previous blogs about wedding waste and favors, so will not repeat myself except to say, I believe we can reverse the wasteful trend and start a new one.

For example, I agree that Save-the-Date cards are a great tool for couples, but they are another wedding product that ultimately ends up in the trash. Why not prepare an online, interactive Save-the-Date invitation like my friend and colleague, Andrew Vick did for his upcoming wedding. Bookmark the link on your computer and you have everything you need to save-the-date.

I believe couples can make another important and long lasting impact while planning their wedding by being selective with the vendors they choose. Every vendor that I Do Vow To recommends is involved in philanthropic work in one form or another. For example, Laurie Schneider of Laurie Schneider Photography volunteers time and pledges funding for Home For Life an animal rescue in Wisconsin where all animals are kept until they are adopted or there to stay. These animals are never euthanized but are loved and cared for and these animals are truly Home For Life, forever.

Andrew Vick of Vick Photography sponsors a child for one year through World Vision in the name of each couple that hires him for their wedding photography. That couple has the option to continue the sponsorship at their anniversary.

These are the commitments and focus that drive I Do Vow To and I sincerely hope you agree that we can plan a fabulous wedding for you but at the same time make a lasting difference in this world for children, animals and us all.

Huge Cost Savings

I love do-it-yourself projects but only if they don't end up looking DIY. You know what I'm talking about - silk bridal bouquets, for example, that look silk and homemade. Personally, I'm with Geri Wolf of The Style Laboratory...silk doesn't belong in weddings unless of course you're talking about Shantung, Dupion or Taffeta as in your bridal gown.

My friend, Merina sent me a couple photos of her wedding complete with this DIY for her ceremony and reception. She used one roll of high-quality sod, and 100 feet of galvinized rain gutters to create this mock-wheatgrass decor. I love the look and better yet, love the price. Her DIY project cost $50 big ones - that's it. This same look in wheatgrass was estimated at $750.

The easiest part of this project was cutting the sod to fit the gutter. Place the sod on a flat level surface, green side up please and press the metal edges of the gutter down on top of the sod. Pushing slighty, the sharp edge of the gutter slices through the grass and soil and gives a straight clean edge. Flip the gutter upright and place the sod snuggly down into the gutter. There....finished!

Sprinkle with water to keep the grass hydrated until use, don't over water and just after placing the grass at your ceremony or reception sites, have your wedding coordinator {hint, hint} spray lightly for that fresh, finished and professional look.

Good luck and enjoy saving significant dollars on this DIY project.

Free Design Ideas

When searching for a way to organize photos for posting on either of my two blogs, I discovered Bridal Canvas. Simply put it's an online tool for organizing photos in collage fashion or better yet, it can be used as inspiration for brides while designing the look and theme for their wedding. The best part of Bridal Canvas is brides can see how their ideas, colors and details coordinate in one cohesive photo. They can play around with backgrounds, images and themes until they've captured the perfect design.

I've put together some of my own canvases from real weddings which you will see as the last image, but the top three are samples off inspiration boards. The uses and ideas are endless and best yet, it's free. Take a look at some of these canvases by real brides...some depict bridal fashion, jewelry and accessories, while others focus on just cakes or just reception decor. There is no right or wrong way to create your own canvas.

There is a helpful tutorial to get you started but the more you play with it, the easier it becomes. Bridal Canvas makes anyone look like a professional designer...Good luck and happy designing.

Design Tips

I admit I'm a freak about specialty linens and can spend hours touching, draping and experimenting with hundreds of luxurious linens at some of my favorite suppliers such as Linen Effects, Aarcee Classic Events & Festivities. I have to force myself to leave or risk being arrested as a squatter. No really...it's that serious.

But not every bride loves linens like I do, nor can every bride afford some of the price tags on these beauties - locally expect to pay $35 ea or more for high end tapestries and damask or as little as $12 for solid colors. Even $12 linens make a huge difference in pulling together all elements of design by serving as the foundation for the "look".

If renting linens, even basic white or ivory, I recommend 120" round for 60" round tables. This gives the linen a nice drop to the floor and covers the unsightly table legs. For 72" tables go with the 132" linens and for 6' or 8' banquet tables try the 90" x 156" conference cloth. These tend to be oval but with 4 florist pins and table pad, the corners can be pulled up and pinned into an elegant drape.

If floor-length linens aren't in the budget, try something I learned years ago...double up your linens. In other words, two 81" x 81" square linens for one table. Most banquet facilities use just one per 60" round table with the points strategically placed at the legs but the look is more industrial with the linen draping at guests laps instead of the floor. However using two per table allows for creative folding with draping then to the floor. So far you haven't spent an extra cent but have the look of floor length linens. Now for the finishing touch - use table runners down the center of the table to cover the seam and to add extra depth and dimension to your table.

Table runners can be rented at much less than specialty linens, or do what I do, shop at antique stores or Ragstock. Ragstock has an amazing selection of Obi Sashes used in traditional Asian kimono dress. These sashes tend to be 12" to 18" wide with sufficient length to elegantly drape over the table. What a great way to add interest and color to each table without breaking the budget.

Hope this helps.

In This Economy...part III

In the previous two segments "In This Economy" I covered how Bed and Breakfasts can be an affordable and completely unique experience for out-of-town wedding guests rather than the traditional hotel. They can also be the perfect setting for an intimate wedding ceremony and reception.

Here are my favorite Bed and Breakfasts:

• The Peacock Inn - located in Chaska, MN is owned and lovingly run by Joyce and Jens Bohn has 5 very beautiful bedrooms all with private baths and some with two person jacuzzi tubs, fireplaces and antique furniture. They have hosted many private functions including rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremonies and receptions and family reunions. I have hosted events at The Peacock and look forward to doing so again.
• Matthew S Burrows 1890 Inn in Duluth is conveniently located across the street from St. Paul's Episcopal Church and has stunning views of Lake Superior. It too has five comfortable bedrooms all with private baths but the highlight has to be the breakfast. You will receive a meal fit for a king all by candlelight.
• Ivy Creek Farm in Lynchburg, VA is a personal favorite. I met innkeepers Marilyn and Lynn Brooks in Puerto Vallarta at one of the weddings I coordinated. I enjoyed every moment spent discussing the trials and tribulations of innkeeping but also the joy and satisfaction they receive making new friends practically every week. Theirs is a much larger inn and capable of handling weddings up to 100 guests. Ivy Creek Farm is situated on 8 acres at the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains and they have something practically unheard of, an indoor swimming pool.

For more information about each of these properties check out their websites and tell them Amy from Fete Perfection recommended you. I know you will be well taken care of.

In This Economy...part II

Last week I posted about the benefits of out-of-town wedding guests staying in a Bed & Breakfast over a hotel. With the right size wedding, this would be a great option for a ceremony and reception as well. There are many B & B's who offer these services, however do not advertise them.

Owners are wary to advertise wedding services, typically because they are a lot of work and not a lot of profit for the owner. However, many owners I have met enjoy the opportunity to be a part of such a special time in couples lives and feel they can offer very personalized services a typical venue cannot. Since most B&B's started out as private homes, the quaintness and charm of the surroundings cannot be replicated in say for example, a hotel ballroom.

Most couples I work with say they are looking for ambiance and unique surroundings with a historical perspective and I say, what about a B & B? If the guest list is under 75, many properties will hold ceremonies in the garden with a cocktail party on the wrap around porch and dinner inside.

B&B's are easy on the budget. Most properties do not charge room rental or even a set-up fee. A special catering license is needed to provide food beyond breakfast but the owners I have worked with seem content to include this fee with their food and beverage charge.

Another reason to consider a B&B is very little extra expense is needed for florals and decor. So many have beautiful lush gardens can serve as ceremony backdrops. Guests are wowed by the simple fact that your wedding is in a gorgeous setting and little else is needed to enhance it.

I'll provide a list of my most favorite B&B's in Minnesota in part III.

In This Economy...

who doesn't want or need to save money on hotel accommodations and yes even wedding venues?

While I was in Duluth this week I stayed at a charming Bed & Breakfast called Matthew S Burrows 1890 Inn. My room had all the creature comforts a hotel offers but there was a certain personalized element that is rarely found even in five-star luxury hotels. The room had high ceilings, an antique bed {with comfortable mattress} beautiful quilts and coordinating bedding, ceiling fan, wing back chairs and the most luxurious free-standing claw footed soaking tub, to name a few.

The next morning I enjoyed a delectable breakfast of fresh fruit, homemade blueberry muffin and an upside down apple puff pancake with caramel sauce, orange juice and fresh brewed coffee. This certainly beats the continental breakfasts offered at many chains.

As I was driving home the thought occurred to me that when a newly engaged couple is looking for hotel accommodations for their out-of-town guests, they usually contact hotels for room blocks. That's the first thought I have as well, however couples should consider local Inn's and B&B's like Matthew S Burrows 1890 Inn. Duluth is a great example of the hotel market being just mediocre, however throw in the Bed & Breakfasts and places like Fitger's Inn and guests have many more appealing and affordable options.

In part II I'll explain why a B&B fits into the I Do Vow To business model and discuss why they make sense for wedding venues. Check out the Minnesota Bed and Breakfast Association for locations near you.

Minnesota Wedding Blog by Rev Tomkin Coleman

I would be a very bad wedding planner if I failed to mention how much I love working with Reverend Tomkin Coleman. Not only does he take a personalized interest in each and every couple he works with, but he is one of the most informed wedding professionals I have had the pleasure of working with.

He writes a blog "Minnesota Wedding Blog" which is a combination of Dear Abby, Jeopardy and Miss Manners on steroids. He definitely knows his stuff and I have to admit I too have looked to his blog for resources or the occasional etiquette question I couldn't answer.

So if you are looking for a truly one-of-a-kind minister to perform a personalized heartfelt ceremony, Reverend Tompkin Coleman should be your first choice. Check him out at Minnesota Wedding Minister and tell him Fete Perfection sent you. By the way, I took his photo from his blog so you can see how warm and charming he is.

Perfect Wedding Show Photos

The Perfect Wedding Show was held on Sunday at International Market Square and was very well attended. Over 670 brides enjoyed the opportunity to meet wedding professionals all in one location kind of like speed dating squared.

I had the opportunity to show off our design techniques by creating four themed tablescapes - Fall - Winter - Spring & Summer. I started with fabulous new linens from La Tavola in Napa Valley and accessorized with Base Plates, China, Silver, Crystal, Votives and numerous other accessories.

Dozens of brides loved our ideas and took photos for future reference. In fact someone loved my ideas so much, they literally stole some of my accessories. Sorry people, I wasn't giving out samples...I guess I should be flattered that they truly loved my ideas, however taking them without asking is just plain wrong. Oh well, I can have replacements made.

Enjoy these photos which pretty much speak for themselves.

Perfect Wedding Show Sunday

I spent the better part of today setting up my booth at the Perfect Wedding Show. Although I'm not finished, I have to say it looks better than I imagined. I can't give away all my secrets but I designed four very different tablescapes, all with seasonal themes.

I tried to go over-the-top on a couple of the tables while creating a toned down eclectic design on the others. I also incorporated antique refurbished chairs thanks to Melissa Stratton who rescues chairs doomed to the junk pile and breathes new life into them by refinishing, repairing and recovering these beauties.

Sadie's Fine Florals and The Late Bloomer each provided gorgeous floral designs and MBellish provided a non-floral albeit stunning eco-chic centerpiece for one of the tablescapes. I can't wait to publish the photos.

If you live in the area and can stop by, say hello to me at booth 122 at International Market Square at 275 Market Street in Minneapolis. The Perfect Wedding Show opens at 11AM and goes until 5PM. After which you will find me tearing everything down, packing it up and returning to my studio long into the night.

Local Resource = Big Savings...

...and it's eco-chic. What could be better than this?




Gosh, I'm getting ahead of myself I better explain - I'm so excited to be working with Mari Bern of MBellish a wonderful company she founded over four years ago {and ahead of the eco-friendly curve I might add} which rents unique, stylish and reusable wedding decor.

She is located in Newport {a St. Paul suburb} however will come to you with her beautiful samples which is an added bonus when you and your wedding planner are selecting linens on the other end of town and having a hard time imagining how everything will coordinate. Mari has a great sense of style and creativity which is why many of her weddings have been featured in Minnesota Bride and The Knot.

Many of these pieces can be stand-alone or MBellish-ed with flowers... they're lovely either way. Two GREEN thumbs up to Mari Bern of MBellish for her contribution to the eco-chic world of weddings and providing less wedding waste.

Trend-setting Save-the-Dates and No Paper Waste

My studio mate Andrew sent me his Save-the-Date for his upcoming wedding in May, 2009. I love this idea for two major reasons...Number One: it's something completely new and as far as I know hasn't been done. If it has I don't think anything else has been as elaborate as this.

Secondly and more importantly no tree was harmed in the development and sending of these Save-the-Dates and an added bonus, no mail carrier was injured making these deliveries. Everything was prepared and sent electronically. I feel that this format has much more impact than just a postcard or magnet. Thanks to Merina Burda and Matt Brue who collaborated together on this exciting innovative project.

Check-out this link for the complete picture: Andrew & Janelle's Wedding. Feel free to contact me at Fete Perfection for more information or to reach Merina or Matt for your own customized save-the-date.

Simple Ideas to Reduce Waste

Since I Do Vow To is generating interest and gathering speed to become the newest hottest resource for trendy wedding ideas, I've decided to get back to my roots, if you will and start posting weekly tips for reducing wedding waste. Technically we are still in the engagement season, however wedding season is fast approaching so I'd love to have dozens of new ideas posted for all to adopt as their own.

The trend I'd love to forever eliminate from the whole wedding scene is to forgo the favor. Admit it...is there a single favor you've ever brought home that really touched your heart or that every time you look at it recall fondly "Liz & Tom's" wedding? I can't - and I've been to hundreds of weddings, professionally and socially.

Honestly, who needs another ornament, bar of soap, golf ball or wine charm? And as much as I love Godiva truffles in beautifully packaged boxes, I don't need 420 additional calories from the two-piece favor pack which by the way, costs $4.75 each. With 200 guests that's a savings of over $950 but money isn't the only reason to do this, although it's a secondary benefit. I hate to think of our lives as depicted in the movie Wall-E, but I also don't think that future is so far-fetched.

Wedding planners of the world, unite and fight against the favor! Brides and grooms, if the idea of a favor is a priority, why not take what would be spent and donate it to a charitable organization near and dear to your heart. I believe your guests will be touched by your generosity and grateful to not bring home another favor that ends up in the trash.